Have you ever been the “go-to” person? The person who sits on a phone, on the computer, or in person, and listens to everyone else’s problems? You try to switch subjects and talk about yourself for once or just try to switch the subject to a completely different topic just because you are sick of hearing the same crap over and over nobody will listen. I am sure we have all been there; I know I have. I am usually the person on the other end of the phone or computer listening to someone about their relationships, and don’t get me wrong I know that is what friends are for, but when can you tell someone you’ve had enough of listening to the same thing every day or every other day?
Lately when I look around me, marriages and relationships fall apart. Whether people get married for the right reasons or the wrong, people are too quick to end their marriage when it gets too hard for them to handle because getting divorces are extremely easy.
Relationships fall apart because no one knows how to be faithful anymore nor do they know how to be committed. It’s pretty sad because any relationship I see someone has cheated or both have cheated. I know cheating may happen, but when it happens more then once, obviously you shouldn’t be with that person and should probably break up before it causes more hurt then happiness
Honestly when I look at the relationships and marriages around me, it makes me not want to ever get married or get in a relationship, but then I see how happy my parents are after being married for 35 years and altogether 40 years. They are still completely in love it makes me sick—not literally. I also look at my sister and my brother-in-law who have been together for seven years I believe they are still in love. I have hope when I look at them, but I still have a hard time trusting anyone because I have seen what goes on in my friends relationships with cheating, and honestly I am not so sure I will ever be able to trust anyone.
You know what the worse thing anyone can ever say to you especially when you are going through heartbreak, anger, and sadness? “Everything happens for a reason.” Those are the worse words anyone can say at that moment. I know that because I hate when people would say that to me when I was sad or angry or even my heart hurting over a guy.
Many people would use those words towards me and at the time no one wants to hear it. People just need to grieve at their own pace because sometimes heartbreak takes longer then someone else’s heart to heal. The worse also is when people constantly remind you, you were never in a relationship with this person so why are you so hurt and how can you love someone. You don’t need to be in a relationship to fall in love, especially when you hang with the person constantly and get to know them on a emotional level.
Remember that first kiss? That first feeling you got? Not your first general kiss that didn’t mean anything, but your first kiss with someone you loved and cared about. The feelings you get from kissing are sometimes unexplainable, but that first meaningful kiss, you never want to stop. But good things always come to an end right?
I have kissed a decent amount of people, but I have only gotten that feeling that is always shown on TV or read in fairy tales - your heart flutters and you can’t breathe because the person you are kissing takes your breath away - only one time. Kissing is an extremely important process in a growing relationship and shouldn’t be taken lightly as it is nowadays. Kissing should be taken into more consideration then sex sometimes because kissing is where it really starts. Kissing should always mean something.
I was talking to my friend the other day and the conversation we were having was why do girls always go for bad boys that treat them less then crap. I actually wish I knew the answer to that. From friends’ experience as well as my own, I have realized a lot of us girls go for the guys that don’t treat us well or just don’t want relationships in general. Whether or not we state that we don’t want a relationship and just want someone to have fun, as well as the comfort of having someone without the title, we don’t mean it.
Can guys and girls be just friends? That is a question I have asked myself for years, and even though I have many guy friends I still ask myself that one particular question. I ask it because anytime I hang out with a guy all the time someone expects me to be dating the guy when I’m not. I have a few very close friends that I don’t have any emotional feelings for they are just someone that is there for me, and that I can rely on whenever I need someone or something.
Why do people think cheating is okay? I don’t get it. Cheating isn’t okay and never will be okay. If you are in a relationship with someone it’s because you are committing yourself to one person. Sure, being boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean you are married, but it is still a commitment, so why cheat? And if you are married, you especially shouldn’t cheat! Marriage is committing your life to one person and that’s how it should be. Obviously.
I have always tried to figure out one thing; why is it always easier for a guy to get over a girl than it is for a girl to get over a guy? I have realized that, not only with me, but with my friends as well. I have so many girl friends that try to get over guys for months at a time, and still can’t over them, but when it comes to my guy friends? They just move on right to the next one, like the previous girl never existed in their life.
Relationships are hard as it is with the title and actual work, but without the title it is perhaps even more difficult. Not having the “boyfriend/girlfriend” status, one is stuck as to what the rules are or if there are even rules at all. I’ve never been in an actual relationship-relationships, but I have always been in the “fake” relationships where you go out with a guy, hang out with him all the time, et cetera; basically a relationship without the title and without the sincere caring and commitment that’s involved.
Okay, that’s kind of an unfair question. After all (in most cases… hehe) the relationship is as different as could be. Perhaps I should rephrase: To whom do you show more courtesy and consideration: your boss or your spouse?
The question is one I’ve vaguely had in mind for a few days, ever since I decided to multitask by using my lunch hour get my cardio in via taking the dog for a jog. I also took along my Bluetooth headset just in case any clients called. Instead, it was my husband who called, and I tried valiantly to have a decent conversation while keeping my pace through the home stretch. Eventually, he griped, “I can’t hear a thing you’re saying with all that wind. Just call me later.” Before hanging up, he added, sort of incredulously, “You wouldn’t actually talk to a client like this, would you?”
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