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Monday July 19, 2010 6:17 am
Why Do Girls Go for the Bad Boys?
Girls are too emotional to do “friends with benefits” or just hook up. Any girl that says that is all they want are lying. Sometimes we believe our own lie thinking we can do this whole “friends with benefit thing,” but it never works out in the end. Someone always gets hurt and most of the time it’s the girl. The guys I have seen my friends go for most the time treat them like such crap that I don’t understand why they are going for them When I ask them, they don’t really know either.
I admit that I don’t always go for the best guys. I go for the guys that just want something whether it be money or a ride. There are a lot of guys out there, especially in this generation, that just don’t want relationships because they want to go out and have fun. Obviously going out and having fun can work as long as it doesn’t turn into something with emotions. Any time I try to do something without the label I end up getting hurt in the end and it isn’t a pretty sight. I end up heartbroken and not sure what I want to do with myself, and because it takes so long to get over a guy for me, I just end up keeping to myself.
Any guy-friend I have ever had has told me I deserve better and I need to recognize the guys I go for, so I don’t go for the same guys over and over. However, as sane as that advice is, I continuously do and I have no clue how. I go for the typical bad boy, but the last guy I actually went for I thought was different. He just didn’t want a relationship and in the end, I got hurt and heartbroken, and still don’t even know why it ended because we just stopped talking out of nowhere.
I really wish I knew the answer as to why girls go for guys that don’t treat us well. Maybe it is because we always want something we can’t have or it’s because we feel like we deserve these kinds of guys. Is there an answer to this question regarding good girls and bad boys? I do know that girls need to go for guys better for them and stop settling for less because in the end the bad boy isn’t going to make you happy.
Tell me if you know anyone that has ever been in this situation or if you yourself has been in a situation like this. Why do you think girls put themselves in this trap?
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- bad boys, bad relationships, good girls, heartache, sidefeatured
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Welllllll…. I feel like girls like guys that treat them like s*** because many women feel that they can change guys. They feel that if they get involved with someone that isn’t the best for them, then they can mold the guy into the “guy of their dreams”. What women need to understand is that GUYS DON’T CHANGE. You can’t mold a guy into who you want him to be it will never work in the long run. It made work for a month or two or even longer, but in the end he will always go back to who he truly is. No one can ever change anyone, people have to find it within themselves to change.
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I think you are wrong. We don’t go for guys so we can change them well at least i don’t and many other girls/women i know don’t do that either. For me I just go for a guy I am attracted too and by the time I realize he’s a complete a** i’m too far in because I already fell for him. Thats me and my experience anyways. Not really sure others
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It is actually quite simple why a “nice girl” would fall for a “bad boy”; all you have to do is unravel the psychology of men and women. As David even said, a guy is not going to just miraculously change who is he because of some girl…. some theories even suggest that “bad boys” have dark triad traits and behaviors that are genetic, making it highly unlikely to change. (if you haven’t taken a psychology course, these dark triad traits consist of narcissism, psychopathy, and machiavellianism). And these types of men, prefer short-term relationships and aren’t actually looking for a life-long relationship.
Yet, women discount this behavior and seek these men anyway because they are attracted to a man that is thrill-seeking, risk-taking, successful, and powerful. In addition, women see a brave man and consider it as an attractive trait that they can’t resist because they feel this type of man can protect her and many women even dream of having a child with this type of male so he can pass down this “toughness”, without having to run the risk of producing a “weak” child in the future.
And you ask, why would such a nice girl fall for such a bad guy?... You have to consider a “nice girl” would be the only type of girl to “put up” with his behavior and stick around through it all, forgive him, and give him countless chances to redeem himself.
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It is a topic for debate. thanks for posting…....
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This is really quite simple, I go for the guys that just want something whether it be money or a ride. Thanks;)
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Really great post, there is good reason the saying “nice guys finish last” has been around for so long.
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