Thursday December 11, 2008 11:06 pm
To burn or not to burn: What to do with pictures of your ex
I actually dated this one guy on and off for awhile and went on a fabulous dive trip to the Bahamas with him and another couple. I remember being at his house after a recent break-up/reconciliation and noticed the pictures from our trip out on the table. I started to flip through them and noticed immediately that there were quite a few missing. So I asked him - where are all the pictures of me and us? “I threw them away” he said. OK, so here we have amazing pictures of good times in paradise and this a-hole tosses them? I eventually got over it, but still think what a crazy thing to do. Of course I still have the pictures we took on that trip.
So how does my husband deal with my “no toss/no burn” rule? Out of sight, out of mind. I have a few albums in a box and he never sees them. Just as long as they are out of his way, I can keep whatever I want. I would say the majority of men are the same, but if you have that one insanely jealous boyfriend/husband, I suggest finding a great hiding place.
Aside from the jealous spouse, technology has also created a new issue. When was the last time you actually printed photos? We now have digital libraries on our computer with thousands of photos. So instead of “to burn or not to burn”, it’s “to delete or not to delete”. This changes the game a bit as your current beau could easily stumble across these. Before I got married, my soon-to-be-husband found a folder I called “Nudey Magazine Day”. No nude pictures, thank god, but pictures no less of me and my last boyfriend frolicking on the beach. I had to let these go unfortunately since they were way too accessible and I’ll admit, inappropriate for anyone to stumble across. I learned my lesson though and after that I went through all my digital photos and saved the ones that were important to me.
If you’re a photo pack rat like me, get yourself some good photo boxes and store them away for a rainy day. If you are dating the insanely jealous, the key to any relationship is compromise, and hopefully you can come to one like I did.
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